This isn’t for everyone, it’s for those who have really grown in spiritual maturity to really want growth no matter what, where they won’t run away from a difficulty.
The spiritual maturity to feel pain that was suppressed for so many years, to feel it even though it is difficult, to make room for something new.
Feel the suppressed pain, be with it, don’t judge it, don’t avoid it or push it away. But be careful to not let it rise up into your thinking (feeling sorry for yourself), for negative thinking creates new, unnecessary pain. Sit with the pain, silently, without thinking about it.
Additionally challenge your fears, this could be a coping mechanism to avoid feeling something painful.
This is true spiritual growth. It requires faith, and God provides the strength. No pain is too great to experience; don’t be intimidated by it; allow it to be felt, so that it passes through you and is released.
It helped me to rename it. Rather than pain which sounds negative, consider it experiencing a temporary energy movement. For thoughts and emotions are ripples on the surface; temporary. While we are the ocean, vast and ever present. (All living things are connected and a part of the whole, the one source, the “I am”, beyond name and form, the formless essence in all things. Experienced as temporary formations of life, yet much more then the physical body.)
Feeling the pain, feels like a step back, compared to suppressing it, but it isn’t. Suppressed pain doesn’t go away; it doesn’t lead to growth, and gets worse over time. Feeling it, without thinking about it, lets it be released, little by little. Rely on the strength of God, not to be afraid; allow the healing to take place.
This is an incremental process, over time it makes a world of difference. Peace beyond imagination. I can’t say the end result, but the progress has been beyond what I thought was possible.
Dysfunctional thinking drops away with growth. Also I hugely recommend “a course in miracles” book to set the mind on path. It’s helped me more than words can say. Training the mind to not create new pain, is an important step. What we go through doesn’t cause pain, it’s how we think about it.
